don’t sweat theˈsmall stuff(American English, spoken) used to tell somebody not to worry about small details or unimportant things
Retirees have more time. Some pick on small details about the habit or performance of the other spouse. This repeated comments become irritating as it is easy to talk and not act. If the spouse has no intention of helping out, then don't sweat the small stuff.
Life is filled with responsibilities and setbacks. Be grateful if you have good health. Others are not so fortunate as the following case shows.
Saturday, March 31, 2018 case
A cat owner phoned me as to whether he could remove his cat's ingrown toe nail. His mother had been diagnosed with lymphoma and after surgery to remove one lump, three more appeared.
"It is best not to go for massage if one leg is swollen," he said to me. "The massage spreads the lymph to other parts of the body."
"Is she undergoing chemotherapy?" I asked as he said his mother was not eating and was vomiting frequently.
"None for this type of cancer," the man told me that his father had a stroke, likely from cancer.
"I don't expect my mother to get cancer," he said the mum was 68 years old and the father was less than 70 years old.
As the parents were sick, the cats were not cared for, leading to ingrown toe nail for one cat and bad teeth for the other. Both were treated at Toa Payoh Vets today. A maid will be coming to take care of the aged parents and this man had to work. I noted he had got a "private car" licence to earn some income as a Grab and Uber driver as he was self-employed.
I hope he is resilient enough to carry on living and taking care of his parents. .